One of our greatest tasks is to learn how to live in the present moment without our past fears and experiences blurring our ability to see and feel our-self as we really are or really could be.
As humans our primary defence for dealing with painful experiences is more often than not to deny that we have been hurt by the things and events that happen to us.
And whilst denial is pretty good at allowing us to go on with our lives for some time after the event or events that caused us pain have occurred, there is no getting away from the fact that our feelings remains in our body for a long time after our emotional wounds began to form.
When Our Denial Strategy Falls Apart
At some point or another, the denial strategy we first employed as a coping mechanism to deal with difficult or challenging life experiences begins to fall apart and we end up with our original feelings manifesting even when life is going well.
We hear our mind telling us, “we’re not good enough.” “we’re unlovable.” and “we can’t do anything right.” and we feel our body begin to fall apart and suffer from things like weight gain, IBS, chronic fatigue and other forms of niggling or serious illnesses.
And while some of us will know why we are experiencing negative thoughts or bodily feelings and can pinpoint their emergence from an event or trauma. Most of us are blindly unaware as to why we feel the way we do and begin to falsely believe that our thoughts and physical illnesses are just part of who we are.
When we experience an event or an experience that causes us stress or anxiety, the first thing we want to do is make it go away. This tactic may work for many years until at some point we realise that we are living with all our emotions running around in our body and that they are taking up so much space that we have no idea how to let them out. We then begin to live with less space in our mind and in our body to create the life we really want to live.
Let Your Body Do The Talking
It used to be thought that what was needed in order for us to deal with negative thoughts and past negative experiences, was a place where we could “talk” about our experiences and that through “talking” we could rationalise or release our emotional pain.
However, now that we know more about how our experiences are stored within the cells and structure of our body, we now understand that a combination of talk and bodywork therapy is one of the most effective ways for us to deal with the feelings of anxiety, stress and depression as not only are we working with our thought processes but our body processes too.
Our bodies bear a detailed record of every hurt and humiliation we have ever encountered, every painful word, every painful emotion remains stored within your body. And only when these internal wounds are released and recognised for the truth that they are, can we ever expect to be truly free from our past and live in the moment of our present experiences. Zara Cordella - Conversations with your body.
Zara Cordella has been practising and developing mind-body therapy for over twenty years and is a pioneer in her understanding of how the body connects us to a deeper understanding of our-self, our relationships and the world around us.
Through her workshops and private practice, she has developed a methodology and ideology that has the capacity to transform the way we feel, experience and live.
If you would like to discuss any of the points raised above or any other aspect of sensorium therapy with Zara then please call her direct on 07756 3366 06 or via her online booking form by clicking here.
Appointments are currently available Monday to Saturday, 10am until 7pm.